Demanding

"I want" never gets... Or at least that's what my Mother always told me when I was growing up.

I've been thinking about this and wanted to write something about it for a while now, but not been quite sure on where to begin, so here goes. 

Now, as a professional Mistress, I am quite happy to provide the service and activities wanted, I adore helping people express and explore their kinky, deviant side and much more. I consider myself extremely lucky to be able to have such a wonderful career and live the lifestyle so fully. 

This allows me to do so many other wonderfully kinky things, such as hosting my CFNM and dinner parties and inviting those who have served well to attend. When I host my parties I want to reward those who please me with a treat. I choose who attends, and I have had some wonderful people come as submissives, as well as Dommes. 

I go to fabulous events and do lots of filming. When I go out to a club or event, I choose someone special to attend with me, they represent me and I am lucky enough to say, they have always done me proud. When I do filming for my site, or other sites, I will always use those who I think are best for the job and who I know to be reliable. 

I get many who can not afford my tribute, which can be understood, and of course, I always try to discuss something about this to see what we can arrange.

I get to see who would make the perfect personal submissives for me in sessions, take them on and train them to what I require as well as helping them to grow, develop and explore more. I even, on occassion, for the right applicant, allow some to come and serve me in my home, doing domestic duties. I really am very lucky and I do love my life. 

Now I am getting to my point, so do bear with me. :) 

What I do not appreciate, in my lifestyle time and personal play, away from my Professional Domme work, is demands from s-types. It is not submissive in any sense to be a 'me me me' subbie. This will get you nothing, except maybe ignored or blocked. 

Let me give an example; I have just been chatting with a sub from overseas. He is a student, but really wants to come over and visit, but can't afford the tribute. I suggested to him that he messages me with what he can offer, in both his skills, a tribute and his time and we can go from there. I'll say it again, what 'HE CAN OFFER ME' - 

His reply was;  i am interested in foot worship, humiliation, face sitting, spanking and punishment and cuckold(if it is also possible)...

best interest is in foot worship and cuckold...
regarding the tribute i can not be sure mam coz money with me kind of keeps varying in amount....
now what would you like to say???

and recently i watched videos related to strapon....
i lovedd them and wish to do that as well if possible...
thats all....
i hope you respond 

Not one mention of what he can do or offer for me, and shamefully all about him. Is this really the attitude of a lot of subs these days?? Sadly it seems so. Let me say, this comes across as very selfish. "I want I want I want" - If that is your attitude, save up and book a session, there are many wonderful Mistresses out there who will happily do exactly what you want in session, but in OUR free time, a bit of consideration will get you a long way! 

The reality is that the majority of us 'Dominants' love to play, we love BDSM and our kinky side, and play is inevitable and a part of who we are. 

So when you approach Us in a club, instead of asking if you can worship Our shoes, why not instead ask if there is anything you can do for Us. Chances are that you will get much more from Us. The same goes for filming, attending events and much more. "What can I do for you" is so much nicer than "i want" and "Can i" and the rewards will be much nicer too for the most part. Even "I would love 'xyz' what can I do to make this happen" is a bit nicer. 

Be respectful please. Yes we are Dommes, but we are people first and foremost!! To quote a delightful chap I met just this last week; 

'Dommes are not walking fetish delivery systems' 

So if you are truly submissive, you love being the one who makes your Mistress have that 'happy Domme smile' and you really want to serve, give your head a shake and think of Her too. Just a little... 

Another great line that always makes me have a huge smile on my face is 

'I want to take/do this for you Miss' 

Nothing makes me happier, prouder or more content than when one of my subs says words to that effect. To be selfless and want to do anything to make another happy is as good as it gets, and you know what, it makes me want to do anything to make them happy too! 

SO REMEMBER!!!

Black dog push ups

Well as most of you know, I am a big fan of club Pedestal and always attend.

This month was particularly good, which I will go into in more detail on my blog, but in short, it was another amazing evening and just gets better and better.

I met molon_labe [https://fetlife.com/users/60109] who came all the way from Australia. We shared a little workout, ie; I sat on his back while he did some push ups, and all for a very good cause. Pictures to come soon from Pedestal :D

We had a chat and he really is a great guy, we need more like him in the scene. Anyway, he is over here to raise money for the mind, the mental health charity.

We all know someone who has suffered with depression and it is something that we can all help with in a small way by donating to his project and the charity.

While he is here he will be doing 10 pushups every minute... for 12 hours in London on the 7th of June, and I will be sure to pop along if possible to show my support as well. (I'll detail locations later this week)

You can keep up with the project on the day on twitter by following @blackdogpushups - I'll certainly be tweeting ;)

You can show your support and help keep the black dog away by donating at [http://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/BlackDogPushups]

Please remember that this is a vanilla project, so be respectful of that when donating. I am sure he would love to have everyones support.

Come on people, make me proud to be a kinkster ;)

Miss Ely

May CFNM event

Well my latest CFNM party is on Sunday the 27th at my home in central Berkshire.

I adore making new friends as well as those already known to me, both professional and lifestyle Dommes. It is a femdom event, so switch/sub/kinky women are welcome also and of course will be treated in the highest regard.

All ladies are welcome to attend and enjoy an afternoon/evening of entertainment and socializing as my guests. There will be refreshments through the day also. As always, you are most welcome to bring your own s-type along as well should you choose.

Its always a fun day, with a few of my best behaved subs in attendance to fulfill every desire and need, or be ignored in the corner should you chose. I hand select a few of the best submissives throughout the month, ensuring theres a good variety of play to be had.

I look forward to you all visiting.

I never send invites as such, so please do drop me a message if you would like to come along.

NOTE TO SUB MALES
If we have previously discussed you serving at one of my events, drop me a polite message. I will reply to those I can. Those I have not met will not be invited unless attending with a female.

Looking forward to cocktails already.

Miss Ely x

April Pedestal review

Well I have to confess I have become rather addicted to Pedestal since my first visit back in January 2012. And what's not to love about it.

April was the first monthly event to be hosted, and I must say, it was the most enjoyable evening I have had there to date. Im pleased I finally have the time to write about it!!

Myself and the beautiful Miss Annalieza attended Club Pedestal together, clad in shiny black latex.
Upon arrival we were presented with a rose from one of the house slaves who waited to greet us at the top of the stairs.

This visit we even managed to grab the lovely derek for a little foot worship and a photograph together this time. YAY!!! derek has given kind permission to use all the photographs shown in this blog, you can find him on Facebook and Fetlife as Derek Schiavo :) An example and role model to all of you male submissives out there, take note!!

Try not to drool over those legs too much boys! 

 As usual we arrived later, but surprisingly, it was rather quiet compared to the past events I have attended. I must say, I do hope it stays this way to a degree. It was much more intimate, there was plenty of time to stop and talk with people, meet friends, use the equipment and view the amazing shows that the Pedestal team put on for our entertainment. 

There was a best dressed man competition as well as fantastic entertainment from Brithish heart Boylesque. Check him out here http://www.britishheartboylesque.co.uk/ 

The hilarious Dee Riley put on a show that had us all in stitches, I will definitely be looking out for him in the future ;) May even have to get him to one of our dinner parties. For more info on booking him visit his site here; http://www.deeriley.co.uk/

And the captivating Sapphire De Vine. We were all blown away be her fiery and seductive entertainment!! Go check her out here; http://www.sapphiredevine.co.uk/

There was a delightful little slave from Dublin who was very helpful in attending to me for a short while, named Anthony, I am reliably informed. He was a delight, as most usually are, and we took full advantage, of course. He did very well and I was very pleased with his efforts. 

I also ran into a few slaves I have filmed with previously, #43 and spitface, as I fondly call them. Miss Annalieza had fun with a single tail and spitface's back, while I delighted in a heavy OTK spanking of #43s bottom in the middle of the play area. Bottoms were made to be spanked after all and #43 deserved a treat after driving me into London earlier that evening at short notice too. 

As always, fun was had in the trampling cage with me and Miss Annalieza, though we may have dented or broke a few slaves...  woops!! :)

The one thing that always seems to happen is when I return home, I receive quite an amount of messages and tweets saying subs wanted to approach but didn't know how to, so I think I shall write a post regarding approaching Mistresses at Pedestal for you little sluts that are too busy dribbling to think about it too much. 

Needless to say, we had a wonderful time and are already planning our next visit in May. This is the one event I always make sure I attend and do not miss! Highly recommended and without a doubt the best Femdom club around! 

Keep up the great work guys and thank you for making it so brilliant!!! 

For more details about Pedestal, go and visit the website http://www.clubpedestal.com 

Miss Annalieza can be found on her members site http://www.miss-annalieza.co.uk/

Much love

Miss Ely

May line up

Well May is looking to be a busy month already, so I thought a post to share and inform would be a good way to spend a bit of time this afternoon!

I've just updated my wishlist and added some new items to it. I adore getting gifts so do pay a visit, its a great way to get my attentions. Amazon wishlist

Well for the rest of this week I have a small amount of time free for sessions.
Friday 6th - between 1pm amd 6pm
Sunday 8th - between 12 noon and 10pm - I may potentially do some filming with the right slave application.

I am available in Maidenhead Monday and Tuesday also before my trip up to the north west.

8th to 11th I am in the north west, so will be available for outcalls and photo shoots. I do not plan to do any filming whilst away, but could be convinced for the right slave. I may need a driver/domestic companion and will be based in the Blackburn area mainly. Also potential for a driver from Maidenhead to Blackburn on the 8th, and Blackburn to Birmingham on the 11th/12th
8th travelling up north. Driver not allocated still.
9th booked all day
10th free until 8pm
11th free 12 noon to 7pm

12th - 13th of May I plan to be in Birmingham. I have a short amount of time to take appointments. Driver and domestic companion required again.

I shall be back in Maidenhead between the 13th and 16th of May for sessions as usual.

16th and 17th of May I am in Bristol filming with Princess Megan for www.YoungDommes.co.uk I require a driver early on the 16th, and return late on the 17th to Maidenhead.

18th I have some availablity after 2pm for sessions.

19th and 20th I am filming in Maidenhead, some vacancies are still available for filming slaves.

21st to 23rd I am available in Maidenhead between 8am and 10pm for sessions.

24th booked all day

25th I will be attending pedestal with Miss Annalieza

26th is our Dinner party evening.

27th is my CFNM party, as always in Maidenhead.

29th and 30th Some availability for bookings, filming ect.

If you are interested in availability as a domestic, companion, driver, filming slave, in making an appointment or any of the above please view my previous blog for information on what the positions entail and what is expected. View for more details.

As always email Miss_Ely@hotmail.co.uk or contact me via another method if preffered.

Contact details are on my website www.MissEly.com

Miss Ely